Real men do make women cry. But, some don’t. Some beat. Others get beaten. Some love, others leave. Some live, others die.
Some may have balls and a penis. Some don’t. But they are all real men and their job is not to make a woman not cry.
The one with the gun in his hand is a real man. The one with the bullet in his heart is a real man. The one who is the dreaded neighbourhood uncle is a real man. The one who is the beloved old man is a real man. The one who shuns God is a real man. The one who prays is a real man. The one who is bad is a real man. The one who is good is a real man.
All men have one thing in common: that they are all real men. They come in various colors, sizes and shapes and they all have little of themselves that society has not shaped. We cannot term a bad man an “unreal” man and get away with the problems we have in our society. A label from ‘Be a man’ to a ‘Real man’ is not change enough.
The term ‘real man’ does little to change the world we live in. A ‘real man’ still gets to decide whether he should be a real man and not make his woman cry. The question we need to ask is why should we give anybody the choice to keep us happy? The strength of a confident modern woman does not lie in her ability to find a ‘real man’; it is her ability to fight the bad ones. Similarly, the strength of a confident modern man does not lie in his ability to be a ‘real man’ to his woman but to be a good man for himself.
A modern man and a modern woman do not need to be chopped and slotted into limited roles of ‘don’t make her cry’ and ‘find a guy who does not make you cry’.
A real man and woman are simply those who decide to stop escaping from themselves and a real society is one which decides to stop hiding them.
*picture was taken from google.